Wednesday, 19 February 2014

Protection Or Posession?..BLOG 31

   Thought through this line of discourse with someone dear, the other day. My honest take was that there is a thin line separating both of these terms.However, one is clearly acceptable than the other. The acceptable one is the protective lover and definitely not the possessive lover.
    I was opined to have contributed in the online discourse that I guess most women kinda like their men to be protective of them, simply because in many ways it shows not only the depth of love such men have for them BUT also how far such men can go to protect their interest from unsuspecting danger.. overlooked by the woman herself.
   Remember protection is clearly distinct from possessive and certainly not possessive. Posessive is not good in any shape/form or size or colouring. Well, that's my perspective. Because a possessive man/woman may not even allow you to be close to your own childhood buddies, biological siblings. Yeah baby!
   Infact there is a level of phobia associated with being possessive it graduates into a higher plane of obsession .Humans are not objects that should be possessed or purchased. Neither should they be obsessed about. Humans are meant to be related with and shared love with. Humans cannot be a property quantity.
   We are all inter-related in diverse ways. Shared love is the order of our lives..
    Have a fab day guys!

Wednesday, 18 December 2013

ONE STUNT..BLOG 30

             One stunt I would have really fancied to perform this Xmas season is to enter and glide in the air with a Hot Air Balloon. The quintessential and singular reason for this, is to demystify my phobia for height and the Hot Air Balloon serves appropriately right for this, because it is open and you are seeing the earth, trees, high rise buildings, sky scrapers as the Shard from the Hot Air Balloon .So in that way you come to terms with the physical reality that your fear from an exposed height has to end right there and then or you commit a Vanity suicide.
              Let me bring it a bit more to you as a person. Can I give you as a reader the simple task of a desired stunt?  to try prove and demystify for yourself  and be totally free for eternity purposes. Perhaps peeps as single beings has a diverse and different aspiring stunts they desire to achieve for themselves. I can perceive that some people have political stunts to do. For instance prove to their electorate that they can deliver an electoral promise of Doughnut when they themselves are the Doughnut. So they end-up showing their faces of Doughnut but with a differential speaking voice. They promise to possibly change the face of the political landscape in their territorial domain.
              Some students think that when they gain University admission, which is obviously a great achievement, that the sky will fall...James Bonding their ludicrious mindset. In short if you are in that category this Xmas celeb period is the time to refocus what you think you need to do, in order to refocus on graduating with honours per excellence. There are also individuals who feel that buying a certain car on credit will make fellow local residents fall on their feet and bow to such personal stunt. I say to such, get a car that will spin more capital finance to your pocket. Get rid of the devious pride,its no good.
              Having said that, whats your resolution for 2014? Enhanced robust relationships with the human race or a guzzler of friends with benefit, ...Have an awesome Xmas!
              Meeeeeeeeeeee. Kings!!!!

Thursday, 28 November 2013

The ELECTRIC ViBe BLOG 29

      Lots of peeps overtime have a presumption that they as an individual are witty and can therefore take witty jokes of all sorts .But in daily supplifications we can frankly find out that many aren't who they say they are in such premise.I hardly write or say things both online or in real deals that cannot be substantiated by factual accounts. This is our discourse today and be welcome to my blog 29 after several hours break from my usual weekly post, for that I tender an unreserved apologies to my global readership loyalties!
     Quite a lot of people cannot recognise the eccentric joker in a friendship .Am practically talking of all sorts of relationship now, be it marital, social friends viz pop dudes/ladies, fellowship geeks in regular professional circles/meetings, adult male & female platonic friendship. Many but a few hearts can recognise a fella who is essentially an eccentric joke maker. Lets simply think of the meaning of an eccentric joker- its nothing but someone who is unconventional, slightly different from the normal everyday next door guy. The eccentric joker is a just fella, who simply jokes a slightly different both in tune and even in laughter. Basically his toast of joke could be very complex and diverse.
      I am thinking while drafting this, that if an adults or beings joke and tease and do the same lines of discussion conversations each time on daily basis I actually feel that we will all be living in nothing but a parallel universe that is boring and stiff. Perhaps the only activity will be the political, capital talks  and social greed of a few previledge people. Ok I can sense in the air right now that some people are offended with this paragraph, because what I have just said can't be taken as a mere electric vibe. Anyway lets be reminded that no matter what the dictates of our days are, we need the free medication of a good laugh as plenty as possible.
      Well, doing dinner last evening with virtually my evening dress. haha I am a man, check the old English name for the long tail dinner suit. Anyway my mind went on browsing spree of yester years. I remember growing up in sunny and superfluous Africa. The quintessential continent that birth the first Man and Woman and further witnessed the birth of todays civilization experiences; but which sadly is the laughing stock of all other continents in todays idea of modern civility and demo-crazy! Hope you are very angry with what I just said? Ok let me explain it plainly-democracy is virtually the demonstration of craze. Hope you got it now, it plainly means that, because we can all see that it is as if equality cannot be attained for all men as prescribed by democracy. Well you may now be asking yourself what is the point of democracy? Well, funny enough it is still the best of baddies. Please be optimistic.
      Right, back to the mind browsing, I thought about how stupid and crazy many of us were before the mobile phone invention and total dependence. Back in the day one maybe a grad or post-grad and jobless, no car, no lover, mere living like an empty box. So what happens.....I am saying that as a youngster of about 22 yrs you can be home all day and after fully-bored to the teeth and bone; you may suddenly stagger out of the room and embark on a 4 mile journey to your buddies house. Without first calling or mere informing him that you are coming for a meaningless chat to avert your soliloquized daily routine. The other madness is that while you are trekking down or doing the mileage you may run into one or two other neighbours or acquittances on the way, these people wont even talk you out of embarking on such vain exercise, instead they will say good bye and hope to see you later.
What!! 4 miles I told you and you are saying see you later??? Frankly with hindsight now,i thought that  was more than the Olympics combined: China-b & London '12 on a regular basis. Weired and really futile exercise we used to do.Some kinda''muscular invasion''.
        To be continued....
         Cheers to all you out there!
           Kings.

Thursday, 21 November 2013

Am Not KIDDing, Am I?: The Nigerian: A Word Of Mouth Political Self Destr...

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Monday, 30 September 2013

Buddies 5: East African't...BLOG 27

           With all humility and am not being funny, i ain't necessarily a closest sort of guy to this buddy. There is a greatness about his person, which has to do with a kind heart , frankly I know one when I see such person. But his world is a bit in shambles because he is not ready to leave his old habits. Once in a while when we are together, you may be prompted to ask what binds us together? He's a real funny dude .He simply amazes me with ludicrous mentality.
           Today, he is complaining about his teenage  son, who apparently is a full time college student. Like most parents, he desires the best for his son, but he cannot understand why the 17 yrs old do not comply to common sense. Fact is Mr East Africana is not living an examplenary lifestyle to his son. How on earth can a father who drives home late every blessed day ( I remember my mama those days using often the phrase ''every blessed day'') at 1-2 am, drunk and staggering, desiring that his son should get home at least 7 p.m each day even while dad is stuffed up in a Pop in north lond., clearly he  the Dad does the opposite?
           As a mentor back in the day, it was easy for me to see that the Teen was a good lad in character. The lad frankly wanted a bit of inspiring leadership from his father. Mr African't
 enjoys to re-affirm to his son that he 'll do a punch with him some day if he doesn't change his attitude. That's strange, isn't?
            Firstly, the lad is gradually just finding out his identity in a mixed messaging conduct and culture of how to be an African as well as being British. Even these concepts are difficult to sort out by mature men and women who migrated here more than a triple decades ago. Not to speak of having a British African't dad which is as unstable as the British weather conditions, but desires a full-on impeccable decency from a 17 yr old son facing peer pressure and cross cultural conflict. Cross cultural CAT-a-strophy, cross cultural casualties. I beg to say , I don't get it !

Saturday, 14 September 2013

Buddies 4:Eastend Africana.BLOG 26

   East African't and I met at the big day of his son. East African't  as i 've  decided to call him, because his morals and values are not necessarily African. He is living in his own self styled, constructed bubble, which apparently is ludicrous.
   Due to the fact that he has drank himself to stupor and unknowingly started chatting up a strange lady. His wife decided to drive home with the kids as he has refused to come to his senses and go home.
   As at the time his Mrs called to report him, i was  home as i don't do much of late night. Bemused and gutted, his wife wondered who 'll pick him. He was virtually deserted to be on his own. How was he going home, no one bothered to care.
   Well the East African't finally hired a black cab to do the journey for him. Suddenly, his wife heard him re-emphasising to the cabbie that he has paid the cabbie man, to which the cabbie claims as untrue. The docile looking Mrs is out now in the nearby residential car park allotted to them. As soon as she noticed her hubby, she shook her head in disappointment; back slammed the door and  tucked herself in-bed with duvet cover. Jeez, he is at the door, his door keys absent in his pocket. Finally, the door was opened by his wife and she throws the bank card at him.
    Consequently, she hissed at him! continuing her pretty sleep with a jet speedo sound.

Tuesday, 27 August 2013

The World Isn't Complex,People Are.BLOG 25

        Certain individuals tend to relate and deal with you based on their idealogical perceptions, understanding and spontaneous conclusions on you.More often than not they get it wrong, totally.Such peeps tend to do things and act according to how they navigate you with the crucible of their minds.Note here that their own mindset is already a crucible, now they raise the temperature of the crucible mind and together come up with a sum total of who they want and think that you are as a person.It is worse when they know that you as an assessed person is a man of faith, an ever forgiving personality.Equiped with this factual reality, they simply resolve and long to continually do wrong propositions to you the vulnerable here.If it hurts they don't care an inch.
        I do conspicuously remember this lovely Uncle of mine,who has since passed onto greater glory; who was fond of saying that if anybody does evil act aginst him with a view to apologising, that he(my Uncle) will also quickly do evil attitude against the offender and smartly apologise too.Laughing! Perhaps it worked for him back in the day.Honestly I am pretty sure that I don't believe in that school of thought, well maybe that is why this present generation has gone talibanic in attitude and manners.
        I as an individual has come to a posit in life whereby I don't give a monkeys about anyone who lack grace in their being.They are free to resolve whatever they deem fit to resolve about my personality.What in the world do I care about such peeps, who get their 'effect' without a resultant, knowing fully well that the normal stream of lifes event is suppose to be resultant effect or better still causative effect, but they choose to do it their own way e.g Frank Sinatra's I' d it my way.Well, in all humility I am a class act in the real world, online and landline if you don't mind all the lines whatever, laughs!
        Each person in this globe has gotto be themselves.You 've gotto be you. I am me.We as individual humans has to be ourselves like the gorgeous craft from the Almighty creator of all creations.Why should I be someone else, least you.And why would anyone in their insanity desire me to be them? The God of all creations is the God of order and not and 'll never be the author of confusion.Anyone maybe uptight with their trivialities uphead, but that is their world and not mine. Friends, we got to be simple , the path of simplicity is honourable, just, realistic, sweet, joyous, peaceful and has a predestined delivery.
         I 've learnt both in the hard way et al to make myself proactive in my thoughts.I won't do any thinking for another adult and clearly I expect same.The world is full of distractions and self contracted distractors, but I cannot give into that.It's absolutely imperactive to know that the devil 'll rather prefer to use people who are most closer to you, whether in the past or present.That's the reason you should useyourheadot.com at all times.People have to learn how not to trade with other peoples life stories.You are only privy to know bits of it, just ponder how you 'll be act if you were to know all the vibes about someone,nuts?
        Can we just say that if you abuse the priviledge of the know by trading, well that's definitely your calamity James.(Ha,ha, any English premiership fan in the house?).You 'll get yours without surviving, its called the law of nature.Fact speaking, I recall a couple of years ago, when Telesales was envouge and I wanted to install some Sat Tv device in my house, there was this squeaky vocal and over-ambitious young man who for no justifiable reasons said to me that I cannot turn down the deal offer, why? I anxiously asked, he said because even though I 've not paper signatured it, but I 've verbally made a commitment and deal with him.
       Trust me, I literally jumped, summersaulted on my end of the phone and told him with the most thunderous voice, that where in the world is such a law existing? As a elite I dismantled him like an aircrash with words, I even went into legal citations and he quickly beckoned; and invited to the phone his Area manager.Who consequently started an immediate apology, blaming youthful exuberance as the demon.This is the attribute of certain individual lone species who trade priviledge positions of trust.
        Do not trade the life events or eventualities of peoples stories, the reason been that, it is the real life's intellectual property of the owners.It should not be shared, traded or voiced by any means possible, because if you do, you are obviously privatising the personal business of others.Moreso , you are grossly violating their lifes spaces.It is not funny and shouldn't be.Everyone on the earth's surface has a life story and history.People are wise enough to pretend and act as if they don't know yours but the truth is, it's just all about self respect and not wanting to juxtapose your personal spaces.We live in a free world of Wifi and Tweeters, word of mouth, cell phone.Violating priviledge story lines is not a form of democracy or ingredients of a free glo-society.
       You as a spreader and shredder have got worse lines too about your own decaying life, condescending is another matter altogether.To be forewarned is to be forearmed.Always be reminded that if anyone is so keen about other peoples vibes, it is all about hearing from the horses mouth or delete it from your gabbage loaded head.Too much information can cause explosives in the head, especially the unnecessary  info's.Deleting is an option of responsibility.Be responsible not to cause an imaginary California wild fire.There are quite a number of young men and women across the racial classifications who are currently undergoing mid-life crisis because they 've got dementia due to 24/7 hours of deliberating on other peoples life stories.To be demented is medically not a genetic inheritance for Afro-Carribs except the very aged ones. Though am not a medical doctor.
       I stand to be corrected for the above,  but I 've been blessed to do  allied courses as a multi pro., and in this case as a scientist .The quest as I would normally ask is this: Are we really surprised ? if a young person has gone lunae due to other peeps private vibrations? isn't that demented levels? Demented about other peeps untrue stories and celebrating their temporary challenges which obviously is part of the new age of adulthood.Its a  life's process, a stage.I 've seen individuals blamed about everything, if he is confrontational(they blame him for doing so), if he is not (he/she is blamed too for that), if someone  facing a challenge is a dialoguing person( he is said to be too Shakespearean as a fault).So  when is the balance ever right? The gospel of Jesus Christ is a profound gospel for all round aspects of human needs, that's what we need to be spreading and not the personal gospel of mere mortals as us.
      Have a great day.
                                                                Kings as always.